Find out more about life coaching, career coaching, NLP, hypnotherapy, EFT and massage therapy

If you’ve never had life coaching, hypnotherapy, NLP or a Balinese massage before, you probably have lots of questions. So I’ve put together this page to answered the most common questions I get asked. If this doesn’t answer your query then please do get in touch.

Life coaching, hynotherapy and NLP

Question: Life coaching seems like an expensive self-indulgence! How can I justify the cost?

Answer: Life coaching is an investment in you, and in particular, an investment in your mental health, wellbeing and personal growth. Many of us pay for gym memberships, yoga classes, hair cuts, holidays and glasses of wine without worrying too much about whether it’s self-indulgent or too expensive, but when was the last time you really invested any time or money in your personal development, growth and mental health? Booking in with a life coach means that you’re taking time out for you and committing to making decisive, positive and long-lasting changes to your life. Be honest with yourself, would you really take the time to do that on your own?

Sometimes we all need a bit of help to take a step back and look at our life with fresh eyes, to work out what we really want from life, what’s blocking us and what actions we can take to achieve our big and important goals, rather than spending all our time on day-to-day survival.

Question: Why should I pay for life coaching when I can just talk to a friend?

Definitely talk to your friends! Talking is great therapy and if you’re feeling down or stuck in life, talking it through with people you know and trust is a great place to start. But working with a life coach is different. As a life coach I am totally independent and objective, I have no preconceptions about you or your relationships, my sole objective is to help you to succeed, I will support you with my skills, knowledge and experience, but I will also challenge you and hold you to account, bringing structure to our conversations to make sure you identify and actually make the changes you really want to make. Good life coaches are also trained and qualified to do this and have lots of experience in finding the best approach to help people to be the best they can be – your friends mean well but may not be quite so qualified or experienced. I qualified in life coaching, hypnotherapy, NLP and EFT with the Life Practice UK under Mark Shields, and I’m a fully accredited member of the ACCPH. (you can view my profile here).

Question: How do NLP, hypnotherapy and EFT work, and how do you use them as part of your life coaching sessions?

Answer: I truly believe that if you want to be happy and healthy, there are three parts of you that all need to be working together and in the same direction: your conscious mind, your subconscious mind and your body. Often they are either working against one another, or out of alignment, or simply blocked, which makes it really hard for you to be as happy, healthy and successful as you could be. Sometimes we work on just one of these levels and it doesn’t get us the results we want because we’re only addressing part of the big picture.

For example, if I had a purely rational conversation with someone who has been smoking for 20 years and explained that they should give up because of all the statistics about how bad it is for their health and all the negative consequences on their lives, it’s highly unlikely that they would give up there and then. Why? Because there are a whole host of subconscious processes going on below the surface that mean that person has a strong bond to cigarettes that will only be broken by addressing those subconscious barriers too.

My approach is to bring together a range of techniques to work with you on these three key levels. This combination helps to address the gap between what your rational mind knows and understands is the right thing versus what your subconscious mind is making you believe, think, feel and do:

  • Conscious mind – through rational conversations, life coaching models and exercises I will work with you to identify key issues and blockers, identify goals and generate practical action plans
  • Subconscious mind – through NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) and hypnotherapy, which both work with your subconscious to help manage negative emotions, we will work together to reprogramme unhelpful thought processes, overcome fears and phobias and change behaviours that are holding you back in life
  • Body – through deep tissue massage I can help relax your body and mind, relieve stress and anxiety, while through EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) we will work together to unblock trapped energy flow and negative emotions

In simple terms, NLP and hypnotherapy both work with the subconscious mind to help uncover and reprogramme unhelpful thought patterns that are preventing you from getting the most out of life. You remain aware of what’s happening throughout and we only ever work on specific issues and goals that you have identified. These techniques are not suitable for everyone though, so I will get to know you a little first before I decide which methods to use.

Many of us are ‘blocked’ and carry trapped energy and emotions around with us every day, without ever finding a healthy way to release these. So some of us turn to comfort eating, or alcohol or obsessive working – none of which really help to ‘unblock’ us. EFT (emotional freedom technique) works by tapping on acupressure points around the body to release blocked energy flows that can give rise to pent up feelings of anxiety or fear of one sort or another. It works in a similar way to acupuncture but we use fingers instead of needles.

In my experience, NLP, hypnotherapy, EFT and massage work well in combination with the more ‘rational’ life coaching approaches, helping to remove emotional ‘blockages’ which then makes those rational, practical life coaching conversations even more effective.

Question: What types of people do you work with?

Answer: I work with people who want to live a full, happy, healthy, successful life, but feel a bit lost, stressed, stuck or out of control. People who, somewhere along the way, have lost their passion, purpose and direction in life. People who want to prioritise themselves for a change and refocus on their own personal growth and career, rather than day to day survival. People who feel trapped in negative thought spirals or destructive behaviour patterns that stop them from moving forward, such as comfort eating or drinking. People stuck in unrewarding jobs or unhealthy relationships, but struggling to make that big decision as to whether to ‘rip off the plaster’. People with fears and phobias that are stopping them from living as fully as they could. People who have lost confidence and want to get it back.

Importantly, I work with people who are committed to making lasting, positive changes in their life and understand that this will require some hard work on their part, as well as lots of support from me.

Does that sound like you? If it does, then please get in touch.

Balinese massage Q&As

Question: What is Balinese massage anyway?

Answer: It is deep tissue massage that fuses together techniques from ancient Ayurvedic, Indonesian and Swedish traditions to deliver a truly relaxing and health-enhancing treatment. It uses a combination of long strokes, kneading, skin rolling, stretching and pressure point activation. It is an excellent destresser and is firm , deep and relaxing without being painful.

Question: What benefits will Balinese massage have for me?

Answer: Balinese massage helps to:

  • reduce stress and relieve everyday anxiety
  • relax your mind and body – time out just for you is an important part of self-care
  • soothe sore muscles
  • boost circulation (both blood and lymph)
  • help you sleep better
  • improve skin tone
  • promote an overall sense of wellbeing

Question: Why did you choose Balinese massage as your specialism?

Answer: A couple of years ago I was in the Gilli Islands in Bali enjoying an incredible Balinese massage next to the ocean, and I made a promise to myself that I would return to Bali and learn how to give other people such a lovely, relaxing massage experience. Also, there aren’t many massage therapists in the UK who are qualified in Balinese massage, so I wanted to specialise in this so that I can offer something a little different for my clients.

Question: Where did you learn Balinese massage?

Answer: I qualified at the award winning, CIBTAC accredited Jamu Spa School in Nusa Dua, Bali. It’s a professional school with very high standards and I was lucky enough to learn from some of Indonesia’s most experienced tutors.

Question: Which parts of the body do you massage?

Answer: The full body massage includes the legs, feet, back, shoulders, arms, hands, upper chest, neck, head and face. I will also massage the stomach if the client requests this. I will avoid any area the client prefers me not to touch.

My shorter massage treatments allow you to choose focus areas such as legs, or back, neck and shoulders.

Question: What if I don’t like people touching my stomach or my feet?

Answer: That’s quite common and totally fine. I will ask you before the start of the massage if there is anywhere you would prefer me to avoid and I will make sure I don’t go near that area.

Question: Who conducts the massages?

Answer: The massages are always conducted by me (Cheryl). I am qualified to conduct Balinese massage and am fully insured. I will never surprise you with a massage therapist you weren’t expecting at the last minute!

Question: What if I feel uncomfortable stripping off in front of someone I don’t know?

Answer: I will give you a large Balinese sarong to cover yourself up before the start of the massage and I will use this to keep you mostly covered up throughout the massage. I will ask you to strip down to your pants (I leave the room while you do this), but if you prefer to keep your bra on (if you wear one) that’s fine. I will only ever uncover the part that I’m working on. Some of the massage moves are actually done through the sarong, which I’m told by clients feels really good. It’s also worth bearing in mind that the treatment room is Balinese style with relaxing, low level lighting.

Question: What if I haven’t shaved my legs?! Or I haven’t had a shower?

Answer: Just relax and enjoy. It really doesn’t matter and I don’t mind at all. Believe me, I’m totally used to it and I’ve seen it all before! If you’d like to have a shower first, I have shower facilities nest to my treatment room that you can use.

Question: What if I prefer not to talk during a massage?

Answer: That’s no problem at all, I totally get that some people find it more relaxing to have an hour of peace and quiet. At the start of the massage I will give you the choice of both of us being quiet throughout the massage. Some of my clients even fall asleep!